This might be an off beat subject for some of you and you guys might be bored of hearing the same things over and over again about relationships. But, I've been talking to a few friends and suprisingly enough there were one or two people on blogge whor even contacted me about the same subject, and pretty much most of the time the same question kept popping up. "When do you think it is the best time to start the relationship?".
Before i start rambling, i know there are going to be people saying "oh your young you don't know shit". Well, i'm just here to voice my opinion about it, and i am only speaking for myself and not anyone else. Don't count on me to be any relationship advisor.
For me, when in a relationship or about to start one, i usually notice the different phases that take place during the process. We might get, for example, The Clicking Phase. This usually takes place at the start of the "relationship", this part is sometimes hard, you might see yourself fail a lot of times but eventually you'll get it, just need to take your time. There are many, many just like this, but personally i think the most important phase for me is the Talking Phase. This is when I need to know what I do and say is being reciprocated. If she's making no attempt to show that she, herself is interested, it'll not only stop me from asking her the obvious, but i would also think to whether its best to leave altogether.
There is this unwritten contracted (signed and stamped) by a higher power that says, we have to be the ones who move the relationship to the next stage...yet I believe, if both the parties have been talking and hanging out for a while, its safe to say both parties have some interest in each other. For this reason, girls should realise the more they show they are interested, the quicker things will move along.
The problem is, when guys know what they want, then that's it, its settled. When a girl knows what she wants, the first thing she thinks to herself is if she really wants it!?
In summary, its actually the girls who decide how fast things move along, the fact that girls 'wait it out' keeps the guy 'thinking what does this girl want', the quicker the girl responds to guys moves the quicker the whole 'game' moves along, or if you guys aren't that serious about it, you can just screw the girl and get it over with.
Before i start rambling, i know there are going to be people saying "oh your young you don't know shit". Well, i'm just here to voice my opinion about it, and i am only speaking for myself and not anyone else. Don't count on me to be any relationship advisor.
For me, when in a relationship or about to start one, i usually notice the different phases that take place during the process. We might get, for example, The Clicking Phase. This usually takes place at the start of the "relationship", this part is sometimes hard, you might see yourself fail a lot of times but eventually you'll get it, just need to take your time. There are many, many just like this, but personally i think the most important phase for me is the Talking Phase. This is when I need to know what I do and say is being reciprocated. If she's making no attempt to show that she, herself is interested, it'll not only stop me from asking her the obvious, but i would also think to whether its best to leave altogether.
There is this unwritten contracted (signed and stamped) by a higher power that says, we have to be the ones who move the relationship to the next stage...yet I believe, if both the parties have been talking and hanging out for a while, its safe to say both parties have some interest in each other. For this reason, girls should realise the more they show they are interested, the quicker things will move along.
The problem is, when guys know what they want, then that's it, its settled. When a girl knows what she wants, the first thing she thinks to herself is if she really wants it!?
In summary, its actually the girls who decide how fast things move along, the fact that girls 'wait it out' keeps the guy 'thinking what does this girl want', the quicker the girl responds to guys moves the quicker the whole 'game' moves along, or if you guys aren't that serious about it, you can just screw the girl and get it over with.
The forewarning was a smart move. topics like these can get people stirred up. Shit, I do not even agree with most of what you said but putting those first two paragraphs out there helped.
ReplyDeletevery interesting post, how old are you?
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ReplyDeleteinsightful post about human interaction
ReplyDeletethanks for the info...but the pic was too distracting lol
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ReplyDeleteYeah, it's definitely the girl who decides it. I got tired of that shit. I do it my own way.
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ReplyDeleteI lol'd at the pic in this article. Personally my views on relationships are a bit different, but I like the way you put what you feel.
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I find that pretty true, I won't make a move unless I feel the girl is wanting me to :S
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ReplyDeletestopped listening after paragraph 2.
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